Anyways. Long Distance Relationship, or for the sake of my fingers from being sick of typing the whole thing over and over again, LDR. And now it sounds like a disease.
Being in an LDR means you don't get to see your partner every day. You don't get to do all those couply shit too often, 'coz you'd only see each other once a week, a month, or a few times in a year. Which is depressing. Especially when your attached friends keep tagging you along to join their 'activities' as a third wheel 'coz they love you and feel sorry for you but are secretly smug that they get to make out with their partners every day.
Being in an LDR can bring forth a lot of issues. There's boredom and infidelity. Which is caused by boredom. And lack of communication and doing couply shit together. And there's the issue of trust. You haven't seen your partner in a month, can you trust that he is just jacking off on Redtube?
LDR down right sucks. It shouldn't be invented, and it should be illegal. But we are human. If we want something so badly, we'd do whatever it takes, without thinking much of the consequences, especially when reality sets in.
But here I am, 9 years in an LDR and I pray to dear God, not counting.
I'll let your amazement sink in for a moment. Done? Okay, moving on.
People would get awestruck when I mention this, like this should be documented in fucking World Guinness Record. They also wonder how I do it, especially coming from those who are in an LDR too and hating every moment of it.
The key to a successful LDR is trust. You need to believe that your partner loves you enough to just jerk off to photos of your decent cleavage and nothing else. If you don't have this, you will lose your mind. Trust, not photos of your boobs. Your mind will always wonder where is he, what is he doing, and who is he doing. And ugly fight would ensure, and the next thing you know, you're off LDR. But of course, it is difficult not to think of the possibility of infidelity when you have a Miranda Kerr as a girlfriend, you lucky/unlucky son of a bitch. You probably need years of mediation with Tibetan monks to get over your insecurities.
Besides that, the most important thing is to GET A LIFE. Get yourself busy. While you're not with your partner, talking on the phone, texting or Skyping with him or her, go do your thang. Hang out with your friends. Do your 1 month's worth laundry. Watch every videos on Youtube. Adopt a Cambodian. ANYTHING. Yes, it's a lot like being single, but at the end of the day, when you call each other to say good night and arguing who hangs up first, you'd know that you do have someone, even though he's living in Mars.
But then again, you need to know that at the brink of my relationship, I was already in an LDR. So I don't get to miss the moments where we hung out with each, dining together or having fart wars every day. For those who had to separate miles away from your partner after being so used to seeing each other every day, I can only imagine the major forlorn feeling.
It's fucking hard, but I promise you, it gets better. The first few years for me was the toughest, but as time passes by, there's no reason to be depressed 'coz I know he's crazy about me. I do miss him horribly sometimes, especially after watching The Vampire Diaries' Damon and Elena make out passionately (oh, forgot to put a spoiler alert there for ya :D), but I know it's okay 'coz I will see him every now and then. In fact, being in an LDR has its perks. You don't see each other every day, so you don't get sick with each other that fast. You also won't turn into a boring married for 40 years couple too. See every first meeting after a long time will be magical. Like being on a first date. And doing couply things would be very exciting and special every time. Oh and I should add, some 'activities' will be ahem, explosive. In other words, a prolonged Honeymoon Phase.
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However, there is one factor that can make or break an LDR. The question of how often can you guys see each other. The Boyfriend is from the same hometown as me, albeit working 8 hours-drive away. So we make it a point to make full use of public holidays. It's tragic, but that's how we roll. So for those whose partner is at overseas, having no idea when they can come back to see you, well, that's pretty much a deal breaker.
Half the population of this earth have asked me when I'm getting married, since I've been with the same dude for almost ten years now. Truth is, I can handle a Long Distance Relationship, but I'm not too sure of a Long Distance Marriage. That's even beyond tragic and I salute those who were able to do it. However, I do wonder what will happen when I'm no longer in an LDR, when the Honeymoon Phase ends after a decade, and reality sets in. Guess that's one problem after another.
So, what you think of Long Distance Relationships: Work it or ditch it?