If you follow my blog, you'd know that I have two Facebook profiles. The other profile is for my students or teachers in school who want to add me. Because for my life, I cannot, I repeat, I cannot let them especially my colleagues see what I'm up to outside my school life. For those who know me personally, you'd know I'd be shoving shit on my face if I add them on my primary profile.
I read an interesting post by Chegu Carol, and she brought light to this matter of who should and should not be added on your Facebook.
Now what if your boss personally sent you a friend request. If you don't approve it, you're screwed. And if you do, well, you're screwed either way.
And your parents. Lord, the parents! It's like having the Censorship Board on your Facebook. And also the constant hovering on your profile, asking time and time again what you are up to, trying to 'keep in touch'. Or waiting for you to post a shout out like 'scrapped my knee today :(' so that they can shower you with their love. Publicly. So if you're wondering, NO, I did not approve my mom's request. No matter how hard she begged. She's in my other profile. The good girl one.
Teachers and students. Once they see your Facebook, all your teacherness that they see in class every day is stripped away. Unless if you're a total nerd, that wouldn't make much any difference. However, I personally think that it is okay to let students see the other side of you. Minus your semi naked photo-whoring photos. HOWEVER, it is NOT okay for other teachers, especially the senior ones to see the party animal side of you. Sungguh tidak memartabatkan profesion keguruan (so not dignifying the teaching profession). Also, you might get transferred. 'Coz you are tainting the school's image and you are a big bad nasty influence to your young and impressionable students.
So what do we do? Do we approve their friend request or not?
I give you here my friends, a guide to help you decide.
These are the 13 types of photos you should not have on your FB if you decide to approve your boss, colleagues, parents or students (if you're a teacher) friend request.
1. Photos with booze
It screams alcoholic and irresponsibility.
2. Clubbing photos
If you don't do your work on time, you can get hell for this. And teachers, what kind of teachers are you?! This is blasphemy!
3. Party photos
Simply says PARTY ANIMAL.
4. Wasted-looking photos
Your boss will never believe your 'migraine' excuse anymore.
5. Suspicious looking photos of substance abuse
Substance abuse is a serious matter. Regardless whether you did it or not. Photos CAN exaggerate.
6. Public display affection photos
"Are you married? You're not? Why aren't you married? When are you getting married?!"
7. Suspicious homosexual photos
"Gasp! What will people say?! You should get married to that guy before people starts talking!"
8. Holiday photos overload
A huge no brainer giveaway for your 'grandma-passed-away-one-week-holiday-excuse'.
9. Photos with sexual innuendos
Two words: Disciplinary. Action.
10. Sexed-up photos
Circulation will happen. Then photoshopping. Then another new round of circulation. Either the school will go down with you, or you'll get fired. And never get hired. 'Cept for a whole different industry.
11. Photoshoot photos
Having another job aside your primary job is bad. If you're working for a company, they might think your overdue report is caused by your other commitments. If you're a teacher, the government could seriously fuck you up for cheating on them.
12. Pagent photos
They'll never take you seriously. You're just a walking stick with boobs who think Gandhi is still alive. Plus, if you're a teacher, how can you be taking part in this kind of activity? You ought to be ashamed of yourself.
13. Clearly inappropriate photos
So, if you have more than half of these types of photos, better think twice before clicking the 'accept' button. And if you're in a profession like mine where you're under public scrutiny and keeping up the role-model-with-rigid morals appearance are top priority, you better open up another account.
And I know some of my students are reading this. Fuck it. Girls, now you know why I can't add you on my primary account. For now.